Caught Between Wife and Mother
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Background
Rakeshbhai and Virali
Rakesh and Virali are married for around 17 years. They have a teenager son. They stay in a nuclear family but previously used to stay in joint family for a number of years.
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The challenge
The mismatching behaviour of wife and mother always bothered Rakesh. He used to try to strike a balance between the two. However, could not do it to the extent it has to be. Later on, when they settled outside, he thought the distance will keep the relation smooth. But, there also Virali used to pick up fights on every small issue and the whole family time is disturbed. The fights used to go to any extent. The child was also somewhere hit by this atmosphere.
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How counseling helped
Rakesh contacted our institute – Sambandhah. The counselor, during the course of lot of sessions, focused on :
(i) the behaviour of Virali
(ii) the behaviour of parents of Rakesh
(iii) the behaviour of parents, siblings of Virali
(iv) Virali’s behaviour from her childhood and the factors that contributed to her current behaviour.
(v) The son’s output and his expectations from his parents.
The analysis from all these was made by the counselor which came to the point that Vaishali was highly sensitive since childhood, which sensitivity, was not taken care of due to ignorance due to which her behaviour turned to rebellious at this age. Because of the continuous fights, Rakesh also lost interest and charm from his life.
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The outcome
After a number of sessions spread over a period of around six months, both of them understood the root cause of their problems, son understood his role as a son in the atmosphere, the parents of both sides understood their limitations of interfering with the lives of their children and ultimately, the couple and son are having a normal life, with very less number of disturbances and fights in the family.
Every situation is different. This is one real experience from our counseling practice, shared to show how counseling works.
